Christ Like Love

The other day I read a Facebook status on my friend Laura’s wall that said, “I want to love like Christ does.” She went into detail and explanation on her post but those 7 words made me stop and think about my own life and how I don’t live or “love” like that.

So many verses in the Bible talk about Christ’s love for us. To be able to show that same kind of love towards our family, our friends and even those that are not our friends is something to work towards. We can easily love those who are lovely, but we should all take a look at how we treat those that are not so lovely.

Proverbs 10:12 (NASB)

12 Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all transgressions.
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Matthew 5:43-48 (NASB)

43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? 47 If you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? 48 Therefore you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.10392583_502855593193824_8761902336248001847_n

Luke 6:35 (NASB)

35 But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men.
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John 13:35 (NASB)

35 By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”10523967_506840946128622_5882037284776724865_n

John 15:13 (NASB)

13 Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.
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Romans 12:9-21 (NASB)

Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good.10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; 11 not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit,serving the Lord; 12 rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer, 13 contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality. 

14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. 16 Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly. Do not be wise in your own estimation.17 Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. 19 Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 But if your enemy is hungry, feed him, and if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.10533037_500531350092915_5655848325491653566_n

1 Peter 4:8 (NASB)

Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins. 1457509_352439434902108_598538193_n

1 John 3:16-18 (NASB)

16 We know love by this, that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. 17 But whoever has the world’s goods, and sees his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him? 18 Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth.11700517_701170063362375_7816906330618796293_o

These are just a few of the verses I found that speak pretty clearly about how Christ loves us and I have posted them here to be a reminder for me as I journey through this life that I need to show love to all people, not just the people I like, but also the people who I disagree with and find it difficult to like based on their words, their actions, and their life choices. I need to work harder to demonstrate Christ like love to everyone that I come into contact with everyday. 🙂

We All Get Stressed At Times….Some More Than Others

Everyday we seem to get caught up in dealing with situations or people that we find stressful. Usually our level of stress is higher or lower depending on our own mood or emotions at the time of the situation. On any other day the same situation or conversation may not even be something you take notice of.

Have you ever noticed that some of us, (I am including myself here as I know my husband will read this and include me) let the smallest things upset us while other people just seem to be able to deal with the same thing in a completely calm and rational way? Frankly it can also add to our frustration when others don’t react as we think they should based on our own reactions.

In an effort to try to combat some of the things that can cause us to get over-anxious, or frustrated, or stressed, or upset I found some helpful tips that we should all try to apply to our lives each day and hopefully relieve ourselves (and those around us) from some of our more “stressful” situations.

Forgive yourself for mistakes and poor choices in life.

Forgive others for wrongs or perceived wrongs towards you.

Stop judging your life by the actions or words of others.

Don’t get personally involved in other people’s situations, especially if they are negative.

Don’t worry if decisions you have made are right or wrong, the decision is made.

Don’t get caught up comparing your life to everyone else’s, it is not a contest, and it is to be lived on your terms not theirs.

Don’t take everything personally, everything is not about you.

Don’t sweat the small stuff, and most stuff is the small stuff.

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Don’t handle every situation like it is an emergency, if it is not it can wait.

Do something nice for yourself.

Do something nice for others.

Stop allowing others to make you feel pressured in any situation.

Don’t just complain about things, if it is possible to fix, do so.

Don’t obsess over things you have no control over. Some things will just happen.

Stop over analyzing every situation.

Things that have not happened yet, may not happen so don’t waste time worrying about what might

happen in the future.

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Take words like stressed out, worried, or pressured out of your vocabulary.

Don’t create unnecessary drama in your life, relax.

Don’t be materialistic. More stuff means more stress. No need to keep up with the Jones’.

If it’s not your problem don’t make it your problem.

Don’t get caught up in gossip.

Try to remember that most situations don’t last forever and you will get through it.

If a situation won’t still matter in a few years don’t dwell on it, move on.

Don’t put unrealistic demands on yourself and your time. Do what you can, the rest can wait.

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Don’t rush through a meal, relax and enjoy.

Try to cut spending to save for the future and become free from debt.

Don’t create problems to focus on, there will be enough without making them up.

Don’t try to do everything yourself. Know when to ask for help.

Exercise every day; it will help your mind and your body.

Play with your children or pets every day.

Find a hobby or activity that is just for you.

The beginning of every conversation should be positive.

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Eliminate unnecessary commitments.

Accept that things can take longer than you think.

Always be early (not too early) so that you don’t feel hurried.

Remember that negative situations in life teach us important life lessons.

Help others whenever possible.

Laugh at yourself, you know others are.

Create a “to do” list but don’t add to it until you have completed something from it.

Read for pleasure as often as possible.

You should LOL at something every day.

Be thankful for the small things and show that you appreciate them.

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Get rid of anything or anyone that makes you miserable.

Don’t stress out trying to get everyone to agree with you, that will never happen.

Be sure to smile at everyone, every day, whether you feel like it or not, you will soon feel like it.

If you’re feeling down about something, look around and help someone else who needs a hand.

Every day try to see your future in the most positive light.

Take every opportunity to be encouraging to others.

Tell the people you love how you feel daily, even if you’re temporarily mad at them.

Life isn’t always fair but it is still a gift, practice gratitude.

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Yes, the list is quite long and while I don’t believe that by applying these techniques to our lives we will never feel stress but at least it may eliminate some of the “over stressing” in our lives and allow us to be happier and healthier individuals. 🙂

Just My Opinion

I have this blog so that I can express my thoughts and feelings on things that I find interesting or that bother me or that i just feeling like writing. Maybe there is interest in what I write and maybe there isn’t but I do it for me so if you are interested, great, if not, so be it.

For those of you that know me well you realize that I am a Facebook user addict. Because of my interest in addiction to Facebook I feel the need to comment on the fact that so many Facebook users are constantly complaining about what others do on Facebook.

Facebook does not belong to you or to me but was created and set up as a social media outlet. I post things about me and my family that most of you could care less about but the fact that you don’t care doesn’t make any difference to me. When I post something on Facebook I have at least one person in mind who is interested, the rest of you can choose to care or not it makes no difference to me. I realize that not all of my 215 Facebook friends care that my husband and I had a date night and checked into a restaurant or are attending a hockey game or that I wish to save a certain recipe so I share it on my page so I can find it later, or that I think something is funny and so I write about it or that my kids are doing whatever it is that they are doing.

Things show up in my news feed everyday from my Facebook friends that I sometimes never read because I am not interested and sometimes I do read them because I am interested, but I get to decide what I will waste my own time reading and what I will not, its my time to waste which is actually what Facebook amounts to…..people wasting time together, but also as a way to connect and share with others, for whatever reason.

I also  play several games on Facebook for my own enjoyment, entertainment and time wasting. When I open a game to play a box appears that allows check it if I wish to send extra lives or extra moves to people the game has selected, generally people that play the game. I do not read through the list of names to decide who might or might not be interested in getting an extra turn or an extra move, because frankly how would I know that, but I do click the box and move on to playing the game because if I send you a life I assume you will also send me one when you next log on to play. That’s just how it works.

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I won’t apologize for sending you game requests that you have no interest in nor will I stop sending to you if your name is in the list. I also get requests every day for games I have no interest in and they show up in my notifications. I open my notification list, glance at it and if there is nothing of any interest to me in it I close and and it ends there.

I will never ask any of my Facebook friends to stop sending me requests of any kind nor will I ask you to stop posting recipes or videos or dumb little pictures with sayings that not everyone finds as funny as you do or status updates about you or your family that I myself may have little or no interest in or anything else for that matter. Your Facebook page is for you to use as you see fit and mine is for me to use as I see fit.

I would suggest to all of those out there that are bothered by what others do or post to feel free to delete the “friends” that are bothering you or delete Facebook because it is clearly not for you.

That is just my opinion and I don’t even care if anyone bothers to read this. I posted it because I felt like it.

Now on to Candy Crush to try to beat the next level. Candy Crush players…..send me a life or tell me to get one!! LOL

Somewhere down the road

This post was written by a friend of mine about some of the same people I know and the same community I called home for most of my life. Reading this made me a bit homesick and a bit  teary eyed and really made me miss my Dad. Thanks for the trip down Memory Lane Christy. 🙂

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This weekend my husband and I went to a beautiful outdoor wedding. The weather was perfect for the end of September, with just the right amount of warmth from the sun and light breeze for the occasion. The festivities were set right on the water, with the guests sitting on wooden benches nestled amongst the trees beside the winding path down to wedding altar.

The gorgeous bride was in the youth group my husband and I ran many moons ago, as were her sisters and friend who were three of the five bridesmaids. The minister was my husband’s best man in our own wedding 18 years ago, and his wife was my first roommate in university. This all made for a delightful afternoon of reminiscing and celebrating the future.

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Sleep Apnea and CPAP Machines

It seems to me that Sleep Apnea is a pretty common condition these days which makes me pretty sure that at least one person who reads this is currently using a CPAP machine. If you are one of those people…..please tell me how you managed to get used to actually sleeping with that contraption attached to your face.

I have only had my machine for two nights now and I realize that’s not a long enough time period to decide that I will never get used to it but that is how I’m feeling about it right now.

Anyone I have spoken to who uses one of these machines praises it to the high heavens….. “The best night’s sleep I have ever had.” “I couldn’t sleep without mine now.” “If I miss a night of using it I am useless the next day.” “You should definitely get one, you will feel so much better, you will wish you had gotten it sooner.” Well seriously I don’t know how much time it will take to feel any benefit from using it.

On night number one, which was Thursday night, it seemed like I was waking up every few minutes or so to try to adjust the mask over my nose, and once I was awake all I could hear was the whooshing of the air which sounded louder to me then sleeping with my bedroom window open in the summer and hearing the city bus stop and start outside of our house. By the time the alarm went off Friday morning I was exhausted from being awake most of the night. My co-workers asked if I felt refreshed from my first night’s sleep with the machine and I gave them a full blown rant of it being one of my worst sleeps ever.

Last night I got all set up for sleep number two with the machine and for some reason I thought I would have a better sleep than I did the first night…..so wrong! I had no trouble falling asleep which was around 11:00pm but that was short lived. Every time I rolled over I felt the need to grab the mask and adjust it and I felt like I couldn’t breathe and the mask was suffocating me (a little over dramatic here, but it was pretty annoying). By 1:30am I couldn’t handle it any longer and I ripped the stupid mask off my face and shut the machine off hoping to just get a normal night’s sleep. I might as well have left it on after all because I was too annoyed to fall back to sleep until around 6:00 am this morning. Thank goodness it’s Saturday and I didn’t have to go to work today because I was having trouble focusing on anything I was so exhausted.

From what I have researched and been told by friends and my doctor, sleep apnea is a condition that disrupts your sleep. When your breathing stops or becomes very shallow, you move out of deep sleep and into light sleep and as a result the quality of your sleep is poor which makes you feel very tired during the day. My test results showed that I was stopping breathing 70 times an hour, which seems to me to be quite frequent. They say, if left untreated there is an increase in the risk of high blood pressure (which I have), heart attack or stroke. It could increase the risk of heart failure and could make irregular heartbeats more likely. So for the sake of my health I thought I should give this CPAP machine a try since everyone I know who suffers from sleep apnea has said it has made a huge difference in their lives.

Well here’s the thing, if I can’t sleep because I have this thing attached to my face or I can’t sleep because I have sleep apnea wouldn’t I be better off to at least wake up unrested without realizing that I didn’t sleep well? I’m obviously not sleeping either way.

My question to anyone who uses one of these machines is….“How did you ever get used to it and how long did it take until you did get used to sleeping with it, and do you truly feel better for using it?” Any tips and advice would be greatly appreciated.

One of The Reasons I Love My Husband

I love my husband for many reasons but right now I love my husband for his love of winter.

My husband is not a fan of hot weather, but give him a nice snowy day and he’s happy as a clam. When he hears that we might be getting a snow storm he is like a child waiting for Santa’s arrival, checking The Weather Network regularly to see how much snow might be coming our way and how soon before it hits. As child like as he is anticipating a coming snowstorm he is just as disappointed as a kid who found a lump of coal in his stocking when a snow storm misses us.

Right now we are getting another snowstorm and my husband is out in it shoveling.  He has actually been out twice since it started and he will get up early in the morning to shovel some more before work, and very likely shovel some more once he gets to work, (unless the shoveling fairies get to it before he does). It’s not so much that he enjoys the shoveling but he does like a clean driveway.

My husband doesn’t ask me to help him shovel when there is just a couple of inches of snow but obviously I would help him if we got a foot or two.

My Husband shoveling the driveway tonight.

My Husband shoveling the driveway tonight.

 

Happy New Year

The year 2013 has ended and 2014 has begun.

When I look back over last year there are a few special events that stand out in my mind.

My Mom was here with us last Christmas and since she didn’t leave to go back home to New Brunswick until January 3rd it counts as an event from this year. The time I get to spend with my Mom is very special to me since we live so far apart and see each other so infrequently.

My Mom here with us last Christmas.

My Mom here with us last Christmas.

In June my Mom was back for our youngest daughter Erika’s graduation from High School. During that visit Erika had a soccer tournament in Cleveland, Ohio so we were able to take my Mom with us for a weekend in the States. This was Erika’s final youth soccer tournament and probably one of the most enjoyable ones we have been on throughout her soccer playing years….maybe because my Mom was with us and maybe because we knew it would be the last one we would go on. Either way it was a great trip.

Erika's Graduation

Erika’s Graduation

My Mom and Erika at Niagara Falls on our way home from Ohio....it was very windy that day.

My Mom and Erika at Niagara Falls on our way home from Ohio….it was very windy that day.

Throughout the summer and fall my husband and I went hiking on the weekends to different areas in Ontario, Crawford Lake, Mono Cliffs, Rock Point Park, and Mountsberg Raptor Centre, to name a few. We also took a trip to Midland and saw the Tall Ships and visited Saint Marie Among the Hurons. Lots of great picture-taking opportunities. We also spent some weekends camping, an activity we intend to continue in the summer of 2014.

At Crawford Lake

At Crawford Lake

At Mono Cliffs

At Mono Cliffs

At Mono Cliffs

At Mono Cliffs

At Rock Point

At Rock Point

At Mountsberg Raptor Centre

At Mountsberg Raptor Centre

Throughout the year we celebrated birthday’s and holiday’s with family meals. Today was another one of those family meals as we celebrated the New Year with Chris’ brother, his son and family and our son Ryan and his girlfriend Whitney and our daughter Erika. We watched the Winter Classic hockey game and enjoyed spending time with family that we don’t see very often.

Erika with sweet baby Avery

Erika with sweet baby Avery

Now that the New Year is officially here, everyone is busy making their New Year Resolutions, like going to the gym, losing weight, etc. Those are things I would like to say would be my resolutions as well but let’s not kid ourselves here, I’m  not likely to start working out to lose weight no matter how much I should. So I think instead of making a New Years Resolution that I won’t keep I am going to make a promise instead. In my 51 years I have never given blood, so I have decided that this is something I am going to start doing. My promise for 2014 is that I will donate blood on a regular basis, because as they say, it’s in me to give. 🙂

Happy New Year Everyone!!!